I just read about the exchange theory form the text and it really made me think. In the exchange theory we look at our relationship and ask ourselves are the costs worth more than the rewards. I feel that although this is neccessary in dating and chosing a spouse it isn't the attitude to have in marriage. We shouldn't be so focused on our needs being met as we should focus on meeting their needs. Marriage teaches us how to become selfless and put others needs before our own. If we are constantly asking ourselves if all the work we are putting in is worth it then we are being selfish and need to change our thought process.